The therapist hits the nail on the head by explaining why we worry about people being angry with us

A thousand years and their deep, multifaceted, defining personality anxiety it’s become prime fodder for internet teasing by young and old alike (but why do we have to be such easy targets?! good the rest!).

One prime example of this is constant fear a thousand years to be with someone who is angry or upset. Yeesh, even writing this sends shivers down my aging spine.

Fortunately, for the few of us who don’t go to therapy — or who are already dealing with many other issues — there’s a viral TikTok that explains why we’re the way we are.

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Getting to the point, expert Maggie Nick explains:

Why are you afraid of making someone mad? He says: Are you angry with me? all the time?’ I’ll tell you—it’s a real bombshell, so hold my hand while I tell you this: It’s because no one has ever been mad at you, and they still make you feel like you’re in love this time same.”

When you’ve had time to gather yourself, read on.

Nick then discusses the common ways parents of past generations reacted when their children were upset, and how those reactions are deeply connected to our fear response to offending someone now. as adults.

He says: “When our parents were angry, they made us feel like they didn’t love us – with their words and actions. “Your experience of people being angry with you is that they shut you up. They withdraw and they don’t have the love, the care, the love, the willingness to take care of you when they are angry with you. It’s our parents’ thing. ‘I’m not crazy. , I’m just disappointed,’ like disappointed isn’t an embarrassing expletive.”

In fact, there are difficult and difficult phrases that many parents have used. And another very deep one where Nick says “I love you, but I don’t love you right now.”

“When we’re a human being with a child and we drop something like that into their developing brain, they’re not going to be able to think critically and see the difference there. They’re going to hear, ‘You don’t love me.’ ‘ And when we are angry and say, of course you don’t love me,” he pointed out.

Boy, does that make sense. When you’re a child, not being loved by your parent hurts, even if they reluctantly added the phrase “I love you” in the beginning. In addition, it is possible to recognize the negative energy from the parent, and it is a way to be ashamed.

The key point that Nick concludes with:

“Your life experience with anger is that you don’t go well. That person you love for one minute, then they’re angry, they don’t give a sh*t about you. You have no value or worth to them. It’s just that they don’t like you, they’re annoyed by you… it’s been your experience with anger. So you’re really afraid of making people mad.”

Holy moly. This certainly gave the audience some temporary joy.

“Whoa!! Thai explains a lot!!! No one has ever explained this to me. Over 40 and just learned something new,” one person wrote.

“Why does all this hit me so hard in a healing/revelation way? Yooh. Thank you. I needed to hear this,” added another.

Another simply said, “At least I explained it.”

The great thing about this is not only that we have practical knowledge on it why anger can be rousing, we are reminded of the importance of using non-violent communication when we are angry – especially with children. Just another way to heal and break the cycle.

Nick has an even more eye-opening video where it comes from, dealing with other issues like equality lack of rest in laziness, interesting people, to find love successfullythough how to end the conversation (hint: it’s surprisingly easy). You can find all this, and more, by checking him out TikTok.